Saturday, 7 October 2017

Generosity

Catching up on a post from breakfast a while back: thoughts on being generous...

Generosity (also called largess) is the virtue of not being tied down by concerns about one's possessions.[1]Often it means to provide help to others by giving them an (usually precious) item without thinking twice. 

Wikipedia 

It is sometimes used in the meaning ofcharity(thevirtueofgivingwithout expecting anything in return. It can involve offering time, assets or talents to aid someone in need). 
In times ofnatural disaster, relief efforts are frequently provided, voluntarily, by individuals or groups acting unilaterally in making gifts of time, resources, goods, money, etc. 
Generosity is a guiding principle for many registeredcharities,foundationsandnon-profit organizations. 
Generosity can also be spending time, money, or labor for others without being rewarded in return. 
Although the term generosity often goes hand-in-hand with charity, many people in the public's eye want recognition for their good deeds. Donations are needed to support organizations and committees, however, generosity should not be limited to times of great need such as natural disasters and extreme situations. 
Generosity is not solely based on one's economic status, but instead, includes the individual's pure intentions of looking out for society's common good and giving from the heart. Generosity should reflect the individual's passion to help others. 
Etymology[edit] 
The modern English word "generosity" derives from the Latin word generōsus, which means "of noble birth," which itself was passed down to English through the Old French word généreux. The Latin stem gener– is the declensional stem of genus, meaning "kin," "clan," "race," or "stock," with the root Indo-European meaning of gen being "to beget." The same root gives us the words genesis, gentry, gender, genital, gentile, genealogy, and genius, among others. 
Most recorded English uses of the word "generous" up to and during the Sixteenth Century reflect an aristocratic sense of being of noble lineage or high birth. To be generous was literally a way of complying with nobility." 
During the 17th Century, however, the meaning and use of the word began to change. Generosity came increasingly to identify not literal family heritage but a nobility of spirit thought to be associated with high birth— that is, with various admirable qualities that could now vary from person to person, depending not on family history but on whether a person actually possessed the qualities. In this way generosity increasingly came in the 17th Century to signify a variety of traits of character and action historically associated (whether accurately or not) with the ideals of actual nobility: gallantry, courage, strength, richness, gentleness, and fairness. In addition to describing these diverse human qualities, "generous" became a word during this period used to describe fertile land, the strength of animal breeds, abundant provisions of food, vibrancy of colors, the strength of liquor, and the potency of medicine. 
Then, during the 18th Century, the meaning of "generosity" continued to evolve in directions denoting the more specific, contemporary meaning of munificence, open–handedness, and liberality in the giving of money and possessions to others. This more specific meaning came to dominate English usage by the 19th Century. Over the last five centuries in the English speaking world, "generosity" developed from being primarily the description of anascribed statuspertaining to the elite nobility to being an achieved mark of admirable personal quality and action capable of being exercised in theory by any person who had learned virtue and noble character (Smith 2009). 
Generosity in religions[edit] 
InBuddhism, generosity is one of theTen Perfectionsand is theantidoteto the self-chosenpoisoncalledgreed. 
Generosity is known asCharityin the Bible, andDaanin the Eastern Religious Scriptures. 
InIslamQuran states that whatever we give away generously, with the intention of pleasing God, He will replace it. God knows what is in the hearts of men. Say: “Truly, my Lord enlarges the provision for whom He wills of His slaves, and also restricts it) for him, and whatsoever you spend of anything (in God’s Cause), He will replace it. And He is the Best of providers.” (Quran 34:39) 
InChristianity, theBook of Actsstates thatJesussaid that giving is better than receiving (Acts 20:35). 
Generosity in knowledge[edit] 
  • Missionary Church of Kopimismsays that all knowledge is for everyone and copying/sharing information is sacred. 
  • According to the Bible, having all the knowledge in the world is useless, without the desire for charity (sharing): 
And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. 
And this I pray, that your charity may more and more abound in knowledge, and in all understanding 
— Douay-Rheims: Philippians 1:9[2] 

God's abundant generosity

When people give extravagantly, what is their reward? See Luke 6:38

Generous with their money: Mary's gift: expensive perfume, equivalent to a week’s wages. Over the top, abundant generosity. 

Generous with family: Hannah's sacrifice: the child she had longed for, which God gave her, she gave back to God. 

Generous with time: Anna, a prophetess at the time of Jesus’s birth who spent her days at the temple, praising and worshipping God. 

Generous with friendship: Jonathan risked his father’s wrath by helping David.  

Generous with help: the Good Samaritan 

Generous with reputation: Ruth, Mary.

Generous when there could be no rewards: Joseph of Arimathea and Nicodemus, risking reputations and in danger of being ostracised for acting on behalf of a dead 'criminal'.

We love because God first loved us. 
We give because God first gave us. 


From 40Acts: Act sixteen – Beyond by Nadia Hussain

"Jesus didn't settle for 'just enough' or the wine at the wedding would have been drinkable rather than top quality. So today, scale it up! Don't measure out the generosity – go large. 

"See what great love the Father has lavished on us; that we should be
called children of God."
(1 John 3:1 NIV)

When generosity goes 'beyond' it somehow stays with us, like an indelible mark. Like the time the girl standing behind me in the lunch queue covered the bill without hesitation when she saw that I hadn't enough money to buy my lunch. Or the time I visited Thailand for 3 weeks and stayed with a lady who housed and discipled 16 teenage girls in a two-bedroom flat. This lady shared absolutely everything she owned with the girls. Her generosity went well beyond our expectation, hosting dinner each night for us when she barely had enough food for herself.
Just last summer I was having pancakes with a large group of young students and when it came to paying the bill, we learnt that one of the students had paid for the entire group's drinks and meals with the very little money he had.

1 John 3:1 talks of our identity as Children of God; we are those who have been lavishly loved through Jesus. It also gives us reason to believe that our generosity should therefore be lavish. To be lavish with what you have is to give open-handedly and abundantly. Radical generosity is the surrender of our time, talents, and treasures as an act of love to others, without expecting anything in return.

I wonder what our culture would look like if we were lavish in our generosity, going beyond expectation simply because we love other people rather than as a response. It might look different in each individual's life and context, but it would be an incredible witness of the Father's love to our friends. I challenge you to bless someone unexpectedly this week. Wherever you are, go beyond their expectation, step out of your comfort zone and really surprise someone, or some group, with God's overflowing love and grace.

Today's blog was written by Nadia Hussain from More Precious."  


Monday, 2 October 2017

What is 'enough'?

Some ponderings which I shared at a breakfast I hosted last month:

Enough

There is never enough. Enough time. Enough money. Enough fulfilling relationships. Enough opportunities. Enough love.
1 Corinthians 13

Has anyone ever felt guilty for feeling they want more? More of what?

We live with the guilty feelings that we are not, have not, do not do...enough. Guilty, because we know we OUGHT to feel happy.

But God says to our hearts:
You were enough.
You did enough with what you had.

2 Thessalonians 1:1-2The Message (MSG)

I, Paul, together with Silas and Timothy, greet the church of the Thessalonian Christians in the name of God our Father and our Master, Jesus Christ. Our God gives you everything you need, makes you everything you’re to be.

Ephesians 1:7-10The Message (MSG)

7-10 Because of the sacrifice of the Messiah, his blood poured out on the altar of the Cross, we’re a free people—free of penalties and punishments chalked up by all our misdeeds. And not just barely free, either. Abundantly free! He thought of everything, provided for everything we could possibly need, letting us in on the plans he took such delight in making. He set it all out before us in Christ, a long-range plan in which everything would be brought together and summed up in him, everything in deepest heaven, everything on planet earth.
Living Bible So overflowing is his kindness toward us that he took away all our sins through the blood of his Son, by whom we are saved; and he has showered down upon us the richness of his grace—for how well he understands us and knows what is best for us at all times.


This is why Paul is able to say:
I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.  Philippians 4:11 – 13
The Message: I’ve learned by now to be quite content whatever my circumstances. I’m just as happy with little as with much, with much as with little. I’ve found the recipe for being happy whether full or hungry, hands full or hands empty. Whatever I have, wherever I am, I can make it through anything in the One who makes me who I am.

How do we ‘learn’ to be ‘content’ – not yearning for more, whatever ‘more’ looks like in each of our lives?
The clue is in the preceding verses: (The Message, Philippians 4)

Live in the present
Celebrate God all day, every day. I mean, revel in him! Make it as clear as you can to all you meet that you’re on their side, working with them and not against them. Help them see that the Master is about to arrive. He could show up any minute!
6-7 Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.
Focus on the good.
8-9 Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.

Be thankful.

Thankfulness focuses our hearts off ourselves and on to God, as we look at what we HAVE rather than what we have not.
Thankfulness makes us appreciate God’s gifts to us more.
Thankfulness changes our emotional state away from unhappiness and discontent.

Recognise the truth in our circumstances.

Taking a long, hard look at the situation gives us clarity and helps us to distinguish the blessings.
Identifying truth helps identify lies which stop us from being content.

Determine to press forward, not look back.

Worship: which, as Lysa Terkeust says, is 'the best battle plan'.

Romans 12: 1 – 2 The Message

So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.

RT Kendall speaks to us about enough: and how to get more of God.

He reminds us of AW Tozer's words: you can have as much of God as you want. You can have more of the Holy Spirit.

How? Simple, really: 
Get to know Him:
Study God’s word.
Spend time in prayer.

We need more than just common grace, which is God’s goodness to all mankind. We need God's special, Holy Spirit grace, expressed through the gifts of the Spirit:

1 Corinthians 12:31  “Earnestly desire the greater gifts. I will show you the most excellent way.” The smallest, the least desirable, the most embarrassing. Desire more of God. The way forward is to practise love.

So love. Be a nobody. Tear up the record of wrongs. Stop pointing the finger at others. Forgive TOTALLY and PRAY FOR those who have hurt me. Aspire to be more like Jesus, aspire to know God for HIS sake, not mine: NOT for what it will do for me.
                                                                                                                 
There is joy in suffering – RT Kendall calls it ‘dignifying the trial’. ‘Though He slay me, yet will I trust in Him.’ Face suffering and persecution and keep quiet about it, that I might know God. Love ‘endures all things’.  Seek after the fruit of the spirit with intensity, waiting for God’s gifts.

And yet we fail to do this. Success seems remote: for who are we, so far short of perfect? As the rap artist Propaganda says, in his 'Gospel in 4 minutes': "You think you can heap up all your good deeds to reach His perfecion? GOOD LUCK!" 

Mary de Muth, author, says: “I also need to redefine success. I have to come to grips with the fact that I will never be the "it girl" speaker or author. But I can be faithful in small things, and that's all He really asks, right?
  • Make the integrity choice when no one's looking.
  • Serve the person in front of you.
  • Take a moment to pray for a friend. Send a note of encouragement.
  • Call that frustrated child.
  • Remember that the world isn't about you, but it's about serving and the crazy upside down kingdom.
  • Do unnoticed things with joy.
  • Count your blessings even when things didn't go the way you wanted them to. There is ALWAYS something to be grateful for because we serve and love a gracious God.
I'd love to be able to drone on and on about all the victories, but that wouldn't be honest. More honest is this: perhaps the Christian life isn't about our personal success, but about our willingness to grow and keep taking the next step when things "fail."

Besides, only God knows the Kingdom metric. One small obedience, one dose of trust, one ounce of faith trumps all the spectacular, showy shows that we tend to equate with victory. I want to "win" at faithfulness in small things. It would be a tragedy if I won at external big things, but remained faithless in the background.

And as I think of Elijah and his stunning victory, followed by desperation so deep he wanted to die, I'm reminded that God loved him in both places. That's a comfort for all of us, isn't it? Whether winning or losing, joyful or depressed, succeeding or failing, God's constant love undergirds us all.

My friend Richard emailed this week and simply wrote, "Know that you're loved." He reminded me that I am loved by God, and that, my friends, is the sweetest victory.”

Remember: when we aren’t enough, can’t do enough...God loves us.

Life is becoming simpler, friends. I can pursue God in Bible study, chase after answers to my prayers, yet everything can be summed up in the words of the song: “Jesus loves me, this I know, because the Bible tells me so...”

I cling to, rest in, rely on, draw strength from Jesus’ love, looking to Him to supernaturally sustain me, provide for me, and reassure me that I AM enough. Because of Him.

And when I feel I don’t have, am not, cannot be enough... I remember who I am: a child of God, daughter of the King... and I straighten my crown. Because my heavenly Father and my brother Jesus provide for and make me enough.

And, some final thoughts from the apostle John, who wrote over and over about the Love:

 

1 John 2 The Message 
1-2 I write this, dear children, to guide you out of sin. But if anyone does sin, we have a Priest-Friend in the presence of the Father: Jesus Christ, righteous Jesus. When he served as a sacrifice for our sins, he solved the sin problem for good—not only ours, but the whole world’s.
The Only Way to Know We’re in Him
2-3 Here’s how we can be sure that we know God in the right way: Keep his commandments.
4-6 If someone claims, “I know him well!” but doesn’t keep his commandments, he’s obviously a liar. His life doesn’t match his words. But the one who keeps God’s word is the person in whom we see God’s mature love. This is the only way to be sure we’re in God. Anyone who claims to be intimate with God ought to live the same kind of life Jesus lived.
7-8 My dear friends, I’m not writing anything new here. This is the oldest commandment in the book, and you’ve known it from day one. It’s always been implicit in the Message you’ve heard. On the other hand, perhaps it is new, freshly minted as it is in both Christ and you—the darkness on its way out and the True Light already blazing!
9-11 Anyone who claims to live in God’s light and hates a brother or sister is still in the dark. It’s the person who loves brother and sister who dwells in God’s light and doesn’t block the light from others. But whoever hates is still in the dark, stumbles around in the dark, doesn’t know which end is up, blinded by the darkness.
Loving the World
12-13 I remind you, my dear children: Your sins are forgiven in Jesus’ name. You veterans were in on the ground floor, and know the One who started all this; you newcomers have won a big victory over the Evil One.
13-14 And a second reminder, dear children: You know the Father from personal experience. You veterans know the One who started it all; and you newcomers—such vitality and strength! God’s word is so steady in you. Your fellowship with God enables you to gain a victory over the Evil One.
15-17 Don’t love the world’s ways. Don’t love the world’s goods. Love of the world squeezes out love for the Father. Practically everything that goes on in the world—wanting your own way, wanting everything for yourself, wanting to appear important—has nothing to do with the Father. It just isolates you from him. The world and all its wanting, wanting, wanting is on the way out—but whoever does what God wants is set for eternity.
Antichrists Everywhere You Look
18 Children, time is just about up. You heard that Antichrist is coming. Well, they’re all over the place, antichrists everywhere you look. That’s how we know that we’re close to the end.
19 They left us, but they were never really with us. If they had been, they would have stuck it out with us, loyal to the end. In leaving, they showed their true colors, showed they never did belong.
20-21 But you belong. The Holy One anointed you, and you all know it. I haven’t been writing this to tell you something you don’t know, but to confirm the truth you do know, and to remind you that the truth doesn’t breed lies.
22-23 So who is lying here? It’s the person who denies that Jesus is the Divine Christ, that’s who. This is what makes an antichrist: denying the Father, denying the Son. No one who denies the Son has any part with the Father, but affirming the Son is an embrace of the Father as well.
24-25 Stay with what you heard from the beginning, the original message. Let it sink into your life. If what you heard from the beginning lives deeply in you, you will live deeply in both Son and Father. This is exactly what Christ promised: eternal life, real life!
26-27 I’ve written to warn you about those who are trying to deceive you. But they’re no match for what is embedded deeply within you—Christ’s anointing, no less! You don’t need any of their so-called teaching. Christ’s anointing teaches you the truth on everything you need to know about yourself and him, uncontaminated by a single lie. Live deeply in what you were taught.
Live Deeply in Christ
28 And now, children, stay with Christ. Live deeply in Christ. Then we’ll be ready for him when he appears, ready to receive him with open arms, with no cause for red-faced guilt or lame excuses when he arrives.
29 Once you’re convinced that he is right and righteous, you’ll recognize that all who practice righteousness are God’s true children.


Relationships: accepting responsibility, accepting oneself, accepting circumstances....

Reading an excellent post by Jennifer Dukes Lee on when relationships turn toxic, I was confronted with some difficult questions. As she talks about three possible responses when relationships turn sour, my heart floods with unwelcome thoughts.

She says: "...even now, there are times when I feel thirteen on the inside, standing outside the door. Even now, I occasionally struggle with relationships that move from good to bad.

I’m learning that in situations like these, I need to pause and take a sober assessment of my choices before I move forward. Imagine those choices as three wooden doors, marked with signs that read: Toward, Onward, Inward."


Toward. "When we open the Toward Door, we “move toward” the person. We’ve determined that the relationship has value and we will attempt to restore it, pinpoint the problem, admit our own shortcomings, offer grace where needed, and grow in the process. While opening this door can be painful, the Toward Door gives us an opportunity to show compassion, and perhaps open a path toward the healing of another soul."

Indeed. This approach declares the value of the relationship, offers the other a chance of restoration, gives the gift of affirmation. It is hard and painful but offers acceptance, not rejection. Lisa-Jo Baker has written a book called 'Never Unfriended', referring to the easy way we can close off relationships on social media with the swipe of a finger.

Now Holley Gerth has also brought out a book on how to Live Fully, Love Bravely. And, well, I've only read the first chapter, where she talks so beautifully about being vulnerable (oh, what a buzz word, @BreneBrown!) in moving towards restoring a broken relationship... and how difficult yet positive this is when we dare to be brave.... I love it, subscribe wholeheartedly to it, and yet....

My questions: What happens if the other person is determined not to pursue relationship? What happens if THEY decide to cut me off? How will I feel? How will I handle the termination of a friendship which I had considered valuable enough to risk myself for? How do I accept that the other person does not consider ME valuable enough to restore relationship with...?

I haven't read the book. Perhaps I need to....

Then there is Onward. Relinquishing a relationship which has become toxic and unsafe. 

1 Corinthians 15:33 quotes a Greek poet who says:  “Bad company corrupts good character.” An encouragement, perhaps, to move away from a relationship which will cause me harm, hinder my walk with God and cause me more anguish than have a positive effect on my life.

But my questions: What if I am someone who has become toxic to a friend, perhaps - often - because of their own insecurity or low self-esteem? How do I handle the rejection inherent in a relationship which has gone awry? How do I accept the effect I have had on other people without it damaging my own soul? Do I have the courage to face up to and accept my own responsibility in the relationship?

And finally: Inward. Jennifer says: "We turn inward, allowing difficult people to linger on the forefront or fringes of our minds, long after they’ve moved on. I’ve walked through the Inward Door in the past, and I know firsthand how it made me spiritually sick to constantly replay conversations and nurse old wounds.
Introspection is helpful, but if you walk through the Inward Door, don’t stay here too long. If you stay inside the Inward Door, a wise mentor once told me, “You let people live rent-free in your head.”

And my questions: How do I stop this happening? How can I move my thoughts on, leave the relationship and move on, away from the hurt and pain? Do I know what I have to learn from this? Even if it is just to trust God more and people less: how do I do that? 

There we are. A great tool - thanks, Jennifer.  And some good questions. Lots of thinking to do....